Singlehood; a lifestyle of it’s own.
Do you ever wonder why there are billions of song about love and hardly any songs about singlehood?
I get it that two is better than one, but who decides that?
We are born alone and we die alone. We are alone in this big blue world but we consume ourselves in this fantasy that we are supposed to find one another in order to feel complete.
Crushes, blind dates, tinder dates, double dates, online romance, foreign romance, boyfriends, girlfriends, relationships, open relationships, love marriages, arrange marriages and whatnot in this constant struggle to find the one for us. We are in the lookout for them everywhere we go, may it be in parks, school, buses, airplanes, parties or empty streets. You search for them on various social media platforms such as Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Better learn to take the selfie from the right angle because you never know when your future spouse might slip into your dm’s. When did we go from a generation of sword fighters and explorers to a generation of desperadoes for affection?
When did love became nothing more than the best advertisement for selling products? Buy this beauty cream and you’ll find love, Shave using this gel and you’ll meet the girl of your dreams, join this online dating website and you’ll be set with someone of your similar taste. The idea of companionship has corrupted us to the point that we make fun of people who are bachelors or spinsters.
“She can’t find a man because she’s too ugly, or she had a troubled past.”
“He can’t find a woman because obviously he has nothing to offer her.”
We all have made comments like that, I did too.
But, some people just don’t see the point. They don’t want to spend their lives forcing another being to love them. They just accept the life in front of them and don’t want to push themselves into the battlefield of love any longer. They are hopeful that if love is meant for them, it will find them. But, if it never comes, they won’t grief.
The reason behind this is that they don’t need another human to make them full. They are already complete, on their own. Call them asexual or celibate or whatever, they don’t care.
Nobody chooses this way, everyone wants to find the love of their life, marry them and raise a family with them. But, sometimes some people aren’t made for it. Some people find their solace in their careers or in their solitude. Afterall, everyone is different.
If you find yourself feeling the same way, either it’s a phase of your life or the way your life is going to be. Do not worry! Enjoy your time and find the best company in yourself. Be your best friend and the love of your life. Give yourself the world because you truly deserve it. You don’t have to go through a parade of boys you have nothing in common with or marry a rich guy to ensure your future happiness, neither, do you have to tolerate living with a wife that doesn’t love you. You can be alone and be happy at the same time. It really is possible. We entered the world in this stage and this is how we shall leave. Thus, there isn’t anything wrong with you.
You are a beautiful swan flying away from your pond. So spread your wings and fly on your own. Don’t let anyone tell you what’s better or what’s not. You are single and this is your song.
Writer’s note: This article is not at all trying to offend people in love, nor the idea of companionship. This is for everyone, who is not in love and is neither looking for it. Cheers to you all.